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纽约婚礼见闻（二）
作者：杨思睛
记得之前参加的几场同学的婚礼，大多更像老同学聚餐叙旧。热闹的感觉是有，但关注的力度不够。很多人大因为许久未见，凑在一起尽忙着互通有无，畅谈各自的工作理想了。于是那本该最受众人关注的，新郎新娘的情感故事，我猜很多人都稀里湖涂地错过了。
我喜欢的婚礼，应该是该热闹的时候热闹，该专注的时候专注，动静皆宜，就像闰蜜的婚礼那样。注意观察了一下，来宾还真是个个“服从命令听指挥”。司仪一声令下，人家是该“群魔乱舞”的时候“群魔乱舞”，该静心聆听的时候静心聆听，该潸然泪下的时候潸然泪下，怎叫一个“乖”字了得啊!
氛围的神秘功效便在于，它可以暗中操控人们的小宇宙。让所有人的注意国力，都能在恰当的时刻聚集在目标人身上，不可能跑偏半步，让所有人的感官系统，都能在恰当的时刻为目标人物而运转，绝不会喧宾夺主。上次为大家隆重介绍了荣誉伴郎史蒂芬先生。这次轮到二号重要人物——荣誉伴娘罗瑞小姐出场了。
罗瑞是新娘的小姑子，一个热情奔放的美国女孩。婚宴上她的祝酒词一度让在场N多人小泪洒餐点桌。
没有见到罗瑞之前，所有人都说她是开心果。没想到一向大大咧咧、快乐无忧的她，也有如此多愁善感的一面。入场之前跟我偷偷学说“迎接嫂子进门”的中文时，她分明还满脸俏皮笑容、信誓旦旦说自己已经准备就绪了呢。谁知到了现场发言时，她还没说两句话，泪水的闸门就彻底失去控制，演讲也一度因声音哽咽而无法继续。多可爱的美国女孩儿啊，我在心中不住地赞美。从不掩饰自己的真情实感，笑就笑得阳光灿烂，哭就哭个畅快淋漓，爱就爱得死去活来(这一点是经过具体事例证实的，无数人可以作证)。
之前看祝酒词的时候，史蒂芬同学的文字远比罗瑞的更打动我。不过照现场形势看来，罗瑞的祝酒词似乎更有冲击力。果然语言就是力量啊!她的一席话好像催泪瓦斯，所及之处众人无一“幸免”。我一边抹着眼泪，一边环顾四周。坐在我们桌的都是轴心人物：新郎新娘的父母那时必定是百感交集。眼看着自己的宝贝儿女转眼长大成人，渐渐脱离他们的保护伞，自然是又欣慰又不舍的。再加上罗瑞的“重磅炸弹”推波助澜，他们不泪如雨下才怪。继续推移目光，新郎的几个姨奶奶，也是激动得泪光闪闪，不时掏出纸巾擦拭眼泪。哭得最伤心的要属新郎外婆的男朋友 那位绅士风度十足的教书先后了。按说他第一次被带来出席家庭聚会，和大家尤其是新人还不算很熟。这悲伤到底从何而来呢？我猜不是多愁善感惹的祸。
在情感泛滥的这一刻，相信在场每个人都如我一样，心中总有股莫名的情绪在升腾。让我们一起感受语言的力量……
原声重现
I don`t quite know how I`m going to tollowwhat the best man said, but I`II give it a try. I wantto start by congratulating Enik and Ling, and thanking a11 of you for coming here today. Ling, I havenever seen a more bcautiful bride. You look abso-lutely stunning and you truly are my princess.
They say you don`t marry SOmmeone you can livewith - you marry the prson who you cannot livewithout. I am certain that this holds true with Erikand Ling When I look at the both of you, I see twopeple who complete one another. I guess you couldsay that you were the missing puzzle picces in eachother`s lives. I see the way Enik looks at you and itis so obvious how much he adores you. The way hetreats you mirrors the way he treats my mother.She is the only woman in the world next to you,that Enik truly cherishes. You are everything to himand I know that he will forever treasure your love.
Ling, before I met you 1 remember inquiringabout Enrik`s “new girlfiend” to my parents. Theywere so incredibly happy that he was dating someoneso beautiful inside and out, But, it was not until Isaw the way you treated my brother as well as theway you treated our famity, that I realized howunbelievably special you are. Since the very beginming,you have always opened your heart to us and havemade a point of getting to know us all. I always tookmotice of all the times you would sit in the livingroom with lily parents and talk to them even whenErik wasn`t around.
I remember being very enviousof Enik and thinking to myself how lucky he was tohave such an extraordinary girlfriend. I always hopedthat I could find somebody who would fit in with my
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