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纽约婚礼进行时
作者：杨思晴
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Priest:At this time, I have a special reading for a couple. Before that, I want to say something special about these two. Normally I'll meet my couples over in several occasions when the opportunity really meets ones face to face. We spoke on the phone quite a few times. What happens is, when I meet with couples as a priest, there're lots of responsibilities when I perform in marriage for a couple. It's not my choice whether they belong together as husband and wife, whether would I face to feel that love is true love, and if I would like to participate in it, and also give them opportunity might not like me, you never know... So one of the things I look for right off the bat, I use a couple techniques. What I do is... I asked them a lot of questions about themselves, giving them the opportunities to ask me questions. Go back and forth, and I looked for a couple of things.
牧师：现在，我为他们二人准备了一段特别的文字。在我朗读之前，我想跟大家谈谈他们二人的特别之处。一般来说，我和新人的接触方式有很多种，时机成熟时我们便会碰面。我和新人在见面之前通常会进行多次电话沟通。作为牧师，我每次以这个身份和新人见面时，我需要承担很多的责任。他们是否适合做夫妻，我是否能感受到他们对彼此那真挚的爱，我又是否愿意参与他们其中，给他们一个讨厌我的机会，这都不是我能选择的……我们永远无法猜到下一刻将会发生什么。为了解答我心中的一系列问题，我立刻要做的事情就是使用一些技巧。我是这么做的：我问了许多关于他们彼此的问题，并给他们机会向我发问。就这样，我来回发问，试图找到我想要的答案。
Priest:The three things that I looked for, is first, the communication between the two of them. How they answer questions, so on and so forth. Second, is the way they look at each other. And the third, when I ask questions about each other, how they speak of one another. Well. One of the things I noticed, when these two walked through the door immediately. The love they had for each other, you literally could feel it. Like all of us, It were all around them... I knew it right away. I want to participate in this. Second, with once again, the way they looked at each other, the course that we sat down and we spoke, I asked them questions, and one of the things I noticed right away was how they look at each other, they had a look of love in their eyes, that literally told me that these two had found their soul mates. The love is unbelievable. You could see it, just beaming from them. Second was communication. I would ask questions, (such as) growing up, questions about their parents, educational backgrounds, professional lives, how they met. We brought them to this wonderful day and their life together. One of the things I noticed right away, is they were basically on the same page, they knew literally what's in each other's head. Erik would start to answer questions, and Lingling would finish. (Lingling: do I ?) Lingling would start to say stop while Erik wouldn't say a word. Right then at there I know it's perfect. But what really touch me in many ways was, as I asked them questions about each other, I asked Erik several questions about Lingling and a couple of questions about Erik. Every time they would answer, they would look at each other and look back. It wasn't the look of approval; it was the look of love. I knew that this was the beautiful thing.